Principal Message

Wish you all a very happy and prosperous new year. I welcome you all for the New Session 2019-20.

We always desire to fill our lives with love, peace and happiness and pray to the almighty to bestow on us these heavenly blessings. We also wish for a lot from our fellow human beings. We also experience a lot of frustration, depression, anxiety and suffer from mental agony being discriminated looked down upon and our self esteem being shattered time and again. This all is just for want of EMPATHY where people do not value the emotions or feelings of others specially the people in the hierarchy of an organization or at the helm of affairs of the society. We too may be a victim or aggressor at the same time. Here we need to understand the HUMAN EMOTIONAL NEEDS and have to be EMPATHETIC so that we form a SOCIETY full of love, peace and happiness.

Human Emotional Needs: Here are some of the basic human emotional needs expressed as feelings. While all humans share these needs, each differs in the strength of the need, just as some of us need more water, more food or more sleep. In various degrees, each according to his or her own unique nature, we each have a natural emotional need to feel:

Accepted, Acknowledge, Admired,   Appreciated, Approved of, Believed in, Capable,

Challenged, Clear (not confused), Competent, Confident, Forgiven, Forgiving, Free, Fulfilled, Heard, Helped, Helpful, i Important           , n control, included, listened to, loved to, needed, powerful, private, productive / useful, reassured, respected, safe / secure, supported, treated fairly, trusted, understanding, understood, valued, worthy.

Emotional needs and schools: One of the problems we have observed in typical schools around the world is the treatment of all children and teenagers as if their emotional and psychological needs were identical. The result is many young people’s needs are unsatisfied. They then become frustrated, as any of us do when our needs are unmet. They act out their frustration in various ways which are typically seen as “misbehavior” and the extreme step taken by them is suicide. This has been especially evident to us when we have seen teachers try to get the entire students do the same thing for the same length of time. The schools which do a better job of meeting the students’ individual needs tend to have fewer problems.

Attention: It is natural for us to seek attention. This is especially true when we are in need. We also believe it is natural for us to want attention when we believe we have something important to say.

Attention or love? Is it attention someone wants (and needs), or love? Attention is a substitute for love, an insufficient substitute. We need love. We can never get enough of a substitute.

About substitute: If our natural, healthy need is for one thing, and we try to substitute something else, that something else will never fully satisfy us.

Empathy: To show empathy is to identify with another’s feelings. It is to emotionally put yourself in the place of another. The ability to empathize is directly dependent on your ability to feel your own feelings and identify them. If you have never felt a certain feeling, it will be hard for you to understand how another person is feeling. This holds equally true for pleasure and pain. Reading about a feeling and intellectually knowing about it is very different than actually experiencing it for your self.

Awareness & Acknowledgement: For this process to work, the first step is that we must be able to experience our own emotions. Next, we need to become aware of what we are actually feelings – to acknowledge, identify, and accept our feelings. Only then can we empathize with others. Life is a gift we are given each and every day and a journey always worth taking. It may not satisfy your widest ambition but still it is worth living. Therefore life is not a problem to be solved but a mystery to be enjoyed.

We best enjoy life with the value system we have inculcated and the quality of character we have developed over the course of time and which is best tested in troubled times.

The lives today are to be librated from all evils and especially in context to Indian society the evil of discrimination on the grounds of region, religion and caste and shall pass on spirituality to nurture the materialistic generation of today and tomorrow with love and kindness.

We always have to be positive in attitude, kind, generous and empathetic to every one irrespective of any kind of discrimination. This is far better than collecting any amount of wealth by any human being.

We need people with strong will, indomitable courage, honest and sincere in adversity and prosperity and who are not confused to their own selfish desire, who take sound decisions and do not punish and humiliate the innocent on any pretext and false grounds to save the other who are shrewd and cunning and are doing harm to the society and also because we all are scared of them.

Strange that these bad people who are very few but dominate the rest. The ‘rest’ are so timid that they don’t have the guts to go against the ‘few’.

“So stick to the fight when you are hardest hit,

It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit”.

Positive attitude is a catalyst that creates extraordinary results. Don’t we need extraordinary people to take our country out of the situation what it is in? Some one has rightly said that when the going gets tough, tough get going.

We don’t want ordinary people to lead who themselves are drifted away like a speck with every wind that blows. Let us instill true values in the hearts and the minds of our children and just not spoil them for our selfish ends.

Let us take a pledge this New Session that we all will try to understand the emotions and feelings of others being empathetic to achieve the ultimate aim of our life: Love, peace and happiness.

Wishing you lots of love, peace and happiness.